Friday, June 5, 2009

Religion vs. Relationship with God

Dear Caitlin,
Is it more important to understand religion and follow all the rules and guidelines, or is it more important to have a strong personal relationship with god?
from, MKB

Dear MKB,
IMO it’s more important to have a strong personal relationship with God. But that doesn’t make us free from all the rules and guidelines. But when we want to love and serve God, we find out that he has his own set of rules designed uniquely for us, and that are really for our own best interest.

Friday, May 29, 2009

Mad diary keeping

Dear Caitlin,
How are you able to keep a diary?
from, Jen

Dear Jen,
Like I’ve said before, a diary doesn’t have to be a daily thing. Most people have a hard time writing every day. It gets to be a drag. But if you let your diary be this place where you can express yourself—when you need to—it’s really pretty fun. And you don’t have to write only about what’s happening in your life. You can write poems or stories or make wish lists or write Bible verses or prayers or whatever. Your diary is for you and you alone, how you use it is up to you.

Friday, May 22, 2009

That dating thing

i have been really encouraged by your books and the whole not dating thing(i think i will wait till i and out of high school, but i am not really counting the days ) and i was just woundering if things gets harder as time goes on ? for me i has i feel that god pushing great guys into my life right now and am having a hard time keeping to my post. do you have any question i can ask my self that will narrow down wheater a guy is "great"? or any tips that will help me ? oh i also wanted to know how you knew jeremy had fellings for chloe? hey could you tell that josh still had fellings for you after you rejected his request the first time ? i haven't heard much about jenny since your 4th book how is she doing now? i fell bad for anna and joel when i read about there crumbling is your brother doing? well i love reading your book and can't wait for more. keep folowing god and showing him through your books !

from, b

Dear b,
The guy and dating thing is complicated. All I can say is that it’s just a daily thing between you and God. And like so many things, you never know what’s around the next corner, but you’re always in good shape if you’re obeying your loving father. He only wants to bring good things into your life. Including the right guy—at the right time. Just trust him!

Friday, May 8, 2009

Long distance 'relationship'

Dear Caitlin,
hi, i recently spent the summer in ------ and i saw this guy who i haven't seen in forever and i really miss him we're not really close because he had a girlfriend while i was out there so i have just sorta been his friend but he is so great and i just wanted to know how to you know like help myself from thinking about him i mean i never will completly just i need tips on how to deal with the pain of a long distance relationship even though we aren't in one to me it just feels that way.
from, EE

Dear EE,
I think most girls can fall in love with the idea of being in love. It’s just the way God made us. Of course, he wants us to wait and fall in love with the right guy at the right time—and that’s the least painful way to go. But sometimes we can’t seem to help ourselves, we fall head over heels, and that’s when we usually get to learn our lessons the hard way. But, hey, it’s better to love and get hurt and learn than to never learn at all. At least you’re smarter. The most important thing to remember is that God has a fantastic plan for your life, but if you’re always running ahead and trying to put it together for yourself, you’ll never experience God’s best for your life. So why not just trust him and be willing to wait for all the good that’s in store for you?

Friday, May 1, 2009

Finding a mate

Dear Caitlin, Do you think we should just wait for God to give us our mate or should we try and find them first???
from, D


Dear D,

The problem with “trying to find them first” is that we might find the wrong one. And how would we know? Not only that, our timing isn’t perfect, like God’s. If you know me (and have read my books) you’ll know I believe we’re always in good shape when we wait on God. Oh, sure, it’s not always easy, but the best things in life usually aren’t easy.



Friday, April 24, 2009

Staying pure

Dear Caitlin,
i have had sex before and i asked god to forgive me but i have a new boyfriend who understands my situation and really cares about me. he says hes willing to wait with me but when we are together it is really hard to wait when were together. can you help me stay true to gad?
from, H

Dear H,
You say “it is really hard to wait when were together” which may be your clue. I guess I have to wonder what you’re doing when you’re together. I mean if you’re all by yourselves, and kissing and stuff, well, sure it’s going to be hard to wait. It’s like if you’re on a diet and you spend all your time at McDonald’s it might be hard to lose weight. If you and this guy want to continue your relationship, I suggest you do things with groups of people. Avoid those times and places that tempt you. And, of course, pray about it. Ask God to lead you.

Friday, April 17, 2009

Can I be a model and be a Christian?

Dear Caitlin, I'm tall (about 5'11) and sorta slim and people always tell me that I should be a model. I think it would be fun except I dont want to end up doing like nude photos and stuff becuase thats just gross. How do I start modeling and after that how do I represent Christ in the industry?
from, M

Dear M,
I really don’t know much about modeling, but I think it’d be cool to have more Christians involved in this industry, and the fashion industry too. Just because we’re Christians doesn’t mean we have to live under a rock. Listen to God and see if he’s leading you into this—I mean I wouldn’t go there otherwise. And if you feel that’s his direction, look into what’s available locally. But make sure you go with a good agency with a good reputation. And make sure you have a responsible adult (like a parent) look into this with you. There are lots of jerks out there and you don’t want to get pulled into something that will hurt you.