I've got a crush on a boy

Dear Caitlin,
i've kinda had a crush on this guy for a while. he's a really strong christian and i've known him for almost my whole life. the thing is, i know i'm too young to even conisder dating but what's a girl to do? i don't want to have a crush and life was so much easier when i didn't have a crush. what can i do to get rid of these feelings? do you have an idea?
from, T

Dear T,
I know what you mean. Like once you get a crush it seems like there’s no getting rid of it. My only suggestion is that you use this crush as a reminder to you that God wants you to love him with that kind of passion and commitment. God wants to be your main crush. He wants you to be so focused on him that you find yourself thinking about him throughout the day. As a result, your crush on this guy will become a lot more manageable. And you won’t get hurt so badly in the end. Because the sad truth is that most girls do get hurt when they get a “crush” on a guy. Their hearts usually get crunched. Guess that’s why we call it a crush.
Blessings!
Caitlin

Getting over a crush

Dear Caitlin,
I Just Got over this huge crush and I feel amazing, I woke up one morning and it was just gone(well not that quick but you get the picture) Any Ways this Is Just A Shout Out to All The Girls With Crushes... Get rid off them , It takes time but It feels really good when its over...I think I was all sad most the time, Its like a dark cloud has lifted and sunshine is pouring in to my life.
TAke care
from, SL

Dear SL,
Woo-Hoo! That is such great news. I really believe that crushes just eventually crush the life out of you. Shaking them off is the best thing you can do. Then give that passionate love to the One who made you and enjoy your life!!!
Blessings,
Caitlin

I met a guy

Dear Caitlin,
umm.. are u really a real person? or is domeone just using your character to do this? Anyway whoever this is that i am talking to , here's whats troubling me...
I went to Sydney last holidays and i met this guy called eddy. We had so much fun together and i really miss him. I don't feel like i'm exactly in love with him, just really attracted. I would love to get to know him better. well we kept in touch, but now we're kind of drifting apart (he says his busy with exams) I don't want to be the annoying girl, chasing after him. But i feel such a longing just to hear from him. I don't know what to do. It seems like its kind of healing now though, i think i was kind of heart broken to leave him. i'm going bak to Sydney in the Christmas holidays (don't worry its not to see him) I guess i'll just see what happens then. I've made a promise to myself not to make a move first (i mean send him a message or call him) I need him to do that if this is going to be anything. THis must seem very confusing and whoever u are, can just delete this. I just wanted to let it all out. Thanks...
from, d

Dear d,
I am a real person…I guess the question is am I Caitlin or the one who writes her stories. I’ll let you decide. It sounds like you’ve made a wise choice to move on from this guy. And you’re smart to realize that if he hasn’t called or emailed you, it’s probably because he’s not really into you. It’s hard to accept that sometimes, but the sooner you do, the sooner you can move on and enjoy all the other good stuff in your life. So have fun in Sydney, and put this guy out of your mind.
Blessings,
Caitlin

Crush on a boy

Dear Caitlin, my name is p...... and i am having a hard time getting a boyfriend. my crush knows that i like him, and i have a feeling he likes me. how do i handle my situation?
from, crushed

Dear crushed,
If I were you I’d take my “situation” straight to God. Ask him whether or not it’s right for you to get into a relationship with this guy. And if it’s right and if this guy is into you, I’m sure it’ll all work out. And if not, you’ll just have to live up to your name and wait for the right guy and the right timing.
Blessings,
Caitlin

Dear Caitlin,
what's up!i have a question,u c 1 of my bf's is a guy and just recently told me he liked this girl .well i felt weird after he told me and i figured it out that i like him and i was jelous.well i ended up telling him and he said "no way i like u 2; so i was like well r we going out know and he said "well thats a prob. u c i asked Hannah out already.so i was like what the heck!so we started just hiding it 4 a while and that didn't work out 2 well.some 1 found out we liked each othr and told Hannah!so he thought i told the person and i said "no i didn't" well he said he believed me but he has'nt talked me since! so i don't know what 2 do that was about a 3 wks. ago ,and he hasn't said a word 2 me!so what do i do i don't want 2 lose a friend ,but i also don't want 2 admit i did it b/c i didn't.also what do i do about my feelings toward him,b/c i still like him ,but look were that got us last time!!THANX SO MUCH PLEASE WRITE BACK!I NEED HELP!
from, D

Dear D,
I’m guessing you’re over this guy by now. And it sounds like you realize it wasn’t such a smart move on your part. So hopefully you’ve moved on and learned that when a guy is dating two girls at the same time, something is wrong. So don’t get suckered into something like that again, okay?
Blessings,
Caitlin

Non dating vow

Dear Caitlin, how did you do the whole non dating thing, i made the same vow as you but it is so unbelivably hard, when a guy likes me i read aways like him back anbd have im-pure thoughts...please help to find god is trying to sya to me
from, L

Dear L,
Hey, I never said it was easy not to date. But having gone through it and made it to the other side, I can say with all confidence that it was the best way for me. And I’ve seen way too many girls getting crushed by crushes or destroyed by dating. The “success stories” in dating are way too few. But I’m always open to hearing the good ones. Still, have you noticed that very few show up in this column? Anyway, it’s between you and God whether or not you date. And it’s good to remember that “easy” isn’t always best.
Blessings,
Caitlin